Daughter's missing years

I have been doing some extensive redecorating in my home- going from dark shades of green wall papers to pumpkin colored painted walls in the living room, kitchen ,and connecting hallways.

In the mists of these projects, I have had to go through boxes of miscellaneous pictures, girl's old school papers,etc. I came across one picture of our daughters dressed in brides maid dresses posed outside with their mother Sandra. This was probably in the Fall of 2004 after Sandra had finished the surgeries for the ovarian cancer and had lost her hair because of the chemotherapy.

How hard it must have been for the girls with Sandra in and out of the hospital while she was fighting for her life. I tell my grief clients sometimes we idealize how things were while we think about our loved one who died. But I can honestly say, I don't remember either of the girls complaining about this very difficult time.  We were blessed to have two such thoughtful daughters.

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