"Man to Man" Grief Room Blog Spot

Dealing With Grief Posted on   October 5, 2015   by   Jason  Fierstein, MA/LPC  http://phoenixmenscounseling.com/blog/2015   The Tale of The Mustard Seeds There is a famous tale from the Buddhist text called the Dhammapada about grief that I want to share with you. The wife of a wealthy Indian man in ancient times lost her only child, and out of her desperation and sorrow, was instructed to go meet the Buddha. Many had already thought that she had lost her mind because of her grief. The Buddha told her that before he could bring the chid back to life, she would need to find white mustard seeds from a family where no one had died, and bring them to him. The grieving woman went from house to house, but couldn’t find a household that had not suffered the death of a family member. She finally realized that that there is no house that is free from dying, and she returned to the Buddha, who comforted her and preached the truth about death and dyi...

“Is Your Lack of Forgiveness Blocking your Grief Process? “ by Tim Heller, MSW/LCSW,                   Spousal Loss Survivor                                                                                                                                       Hospice Bereavement Coordinator Is there a situation or a difficult history between you and your deceased loved one or a related party that is in need for forgiveness?   Could your unwillingness to forgive your loved one be blocking your grief process?   Many professionals in the grief field would answer the question with a reso...

GRIEVING LIKE A MAN – SHE CRIES, HE SIGHS by Tim Heller, MSW/LCSW Everyday we lose children, wives, parents, extended family and significant others to death. Grief is the price we pay for loving others. Grief cannot be avoided. All people need to go through the grief /mourning process after the death of a loved one. If you try to run from grief, it will eventually find you. Avoidance of grief can result in the mourner turning to alcohol or drugs, over eating or possibly developing physical problems of their own. Men as well as women must face the death of the loved one so they can work through the feelings of loss and grief. Men and women share a number of similarities in the way they process their grief. Before anyone can become reconciled with the death of a family member or a friend, it is necessary to “go into” the grief and experience the feelings of loss. Research from recent years suggests men grieve differently than women. What does a grieving man do to “get over” his...