No Such Thing As ":Stages of Grief"

In Darlene Cross's new book: "A New Normal: learning to live with grief " she points out one of the most important things new grief newbies need to know: "The most widely model you may have had likely heard bout is commonly referred to as the 'stages of grief.'...Keep reading because the shocking truth is there is no such thing."

 Many people learned in school or church about he stages of grief. It is usually described as a neat set of steps that carry you from one stage to another in a neat, smooth package- forget it- is right.-

http://www.amazon.com/New-Normal-Learning-Grief-ebook/dp/B0036FUS6M/ref=dp_kinw_strp_1

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antiSWer said…
So amazing how this understanding is so prevalent. What better way to make grieving people feel bad than to tell them how it should work and have them think they're doing it wrong.
Monday, December 17, 2012 at 7:08:00 PM EST
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