Do You Get Over Grief ? 10 July 08


Ten months have past since my wife, Sandra, died in October 2007. I still think about her everyday. I sensed her presence at my ordination. She wanted to have lived to see it. She wanted just to live period. She is gone. I miss her.

"The Communion of Saints Experience"

I am becoming a bit more at peace with her death. She is at peace with the Lord. I feel confident in this belief. Two weeks before she died she received the Sacrament of Anointing of the Sick by our then pastor, Fr. Bill Marks. As he administered the Sacrament, he said he could tell something extraordinary was happening. He asked Sandra what was going on. She answered, "Don't you know ? "You are a priest!" Sandra reported having a "Communion of Saints" experience. She was surrounded by all the saints she had prayed for their intercession and also surrounded by angels and Jesus and Mary.

After this experience of Sandra's I knew there was no turning back. I felt like her time to meet the Lord, face to face, was approaching. Prior to that event time I was holding out hope that she might be physically healed through divine intervention. I knew it wasn't meant to be.

I am developing my own personal understanding and experience of what grief is and what becomes of grief. Instead of going away or instead of "working through it," I am feeling like the grief/mourning process is a mystery that becomes interwoven in the fabric of my life and I am evolving with it.

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